A family is the most important thing for many people. It is supposed to be based on love. Love and relationship are like flowers. If you don't water them, they wilt. To save your family, you should work at it every day. Here are rules of behavior for women. The cardinal error of most women is that they think after wedding everything will be changed for the better but human nature can't be made over easily. What is the reason for this belief? Don't lie to yourself. As life shows all problems and disagreement even worsen from the beginning of married life. This kind of marriage is supposed to be broken up in most cases.
They say ‘Haste makes waste'. That's why the chief advice is that marriage is not a thing to hurry. Love is taking a man as he is with all his merits and demerits. If you can't take his demerits, don't hurry into marriage. One thing or another, there is no third one.
It's impossible to change someone but you can change yourself. Here are some tips how to do it. They are not a panacea for family problems because we differ from each other. There are no universal advices on this subject. That's why I'm going to follow the opposite way.
What you shouldn't do not to damage relationship with your beloved man.
Tip 1: Remember that you're not a single anymore. Indifference ruins relationship more than anything else. For example, when a man comes home but nobody greets him, nobody is glad to see him. May be it's the reason why men often start keeping a dog. Here is a good example of demonstrating sincerity from ears to the tail! …Or, instead, they can start taking a lover…
Tip 2: Don't expect quick-wittedness on his part. Frequently, family problems begin when our imagination and expectations sharply differ from the reality.
For example, you hope your husband will buy a bouquet of flowers for you returning from work but he hasn't done it. What's the next thing? Here is a typical scenario that many women use.
You are in the sulks and breathe heavily and noisily through the nose all evening. He tries his best to clear up for some time what's the matter. You don't say what his fault is because you think he should guess. He can't guess. You have a quarrel. The evening is spoiled.
Tip 3: Don't discuss serious matters with your man when he is hungry. You know, the way to a man's heart goes through his stomach. First feed, then ask.
Tip 4: Don't attempt having his mind made up for him. He is grown-up and has been living without you all those years. So he has a right to decide on his own what to put on, where to go, who to be friends with, how to treat his parents and so on, and so forth. Pressing your opinion on your man, you infringe upon his liberty. Men hate it! That's why making a decision, ask yourself: ‘Is it my business?'
Tip 5: Don't create unnecessary family problems for him. There are women who, if they need something, require that it can be done yesterday or right now as a last resort. Such women are absolutely indifferent about his problems, whether he is tired or maybe he has his own plans on that time. He can even be patient for some time but finally he will explode with anger and make a stink about it. Even a worm will turn...
To be continued...
Dos and Don'ts of Family Relationship Part I
A family is the most important thing for many people. It is supposed to be based on love. Love and relationship are like flowers. If you don't water them, they wilt. To save your family, you should work at it every day. Here are rules of behavior for women. The cardinal error of most women is that they think after wedding everything will be changed for the better but human nature can't be made over easily. What is the reason for this belief? Don't lie to yourself. As life shows all problems and disagreement even worsen from the beginning of married life. This kind of marriage is supposed to be broken up in most cases.
They say ‘Haste makes waste'. That's why the chief advice is that marriage is not a thing to hurry. Love is taking a man as he is with all his merits and demerits. If you can't take his demerits, don't hurry into marriage. One thing or another, there is no third one.
It's impossible to change someone but you can change yourself. Here are some tips how to do it. They are not a panacea for family problems because we differ from each other. There are no universal advices on this subject. That's why I'm going to follow the opposite way.
What you shouldn't do not to damage relationship with your beloved man.
Tip 1: Remember that you're not a single anymore. Indifference ruins relationship more than anything else. For example, when a man comes home but nobody greets him, nobody is glad to see him. May be it's the reason why men often start keeping a dog. Here is a good example of demonstrating sincerity from ears to the tail! …Or, instead, they can start taking a lover…
Tip 2: Don't expect quick-wittedness on his part. Frequently, family problems begin when our imagination and expectations sharply differ from the reality.
For example, you hope your husband will buy a bouquet of flowers for you returning from work but he hasn't done it. What's the next thing? Here is a typical scenario that many women use.
You are in the sulks and breathe heavily and noisily through the nose all evening. He tries his best to clear up for some time what's the matter. You don't say what his fault is because you think he should guess. He can't guess. You have a quarrel. The evening is spoiled.
Tip 3: Don't discuss serious matters with your man when he is hungry. You know, the way to a man's heart goes through his stomach. First feed, then ask.
Tip 4: Don't attempt having his mind made up for him. He is grown-up and has been living without you all those years. So he has a right to decide on his own what to put on, where to go, who to be friends with, how to treat his parents and so on, and so forth. Pressing your opinion on your man, you infringe upon his liberty. Men hate it! That's why making a decision, ask yourself: ‘Is it my business?'
Tip 5: Don't create unnecessary family problems for him. There are women who, if they need something, require that it can be done yesterday or right now as a last resort. Such women are absolutely indifferent about his problems, whether he is tired or maybe he has his own plans on that time. He can even be patient for some time but finally he will explode with anger and make a stink about it. Even a worm will turn...
To be continued...
